Delayed Ejaculation


Delayed ejaculation is
the third most common sexual dysfunction in males

Delayed ejaculation is the inability of a man to reach sexual climax during intercourse despite sufficient sexual desire and sexual stimulation. The man is either unable to reach climax at all or can only reach climax after a very long duration of sexual intercourse. Usually, a healthy male can reach sexual climax within a few minutes of vaginal intercourse. A man is considered to have delayed ejaculation if he is persistently not able to achieve sexual climax with vaginal intercourse, or if he needs more than 30-45 minutes of intense vaginal thrusting to ejaculate. Occasional delay in ejaculation is normal. Delayed ejaculation is also known as retarded ejaculation or inhibited ejaculation.

What may be confusing is that ejaculation and orgasm do not necessarily occur at the same time. They generally occur simultaneously, but it is possible for a man to have an orgasm without ejaculating. Male sexual climax is generally considered to be an orgasm and ejaculation occurring at the same time. These two events rarely occur apart but if they do, delayed ejaculation is specifically concerned with ejaculation of seminal fluid through the urethra, even if orgasm occurs earlier.

Delayed ejaculation is not as common as other male sexual disorders although some sources rate it as the third most common sexual dysfunction in males after erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. It is certainly not as common as erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation and it also has not been researched as much. According to some studies, delayed ejaculation affects about 3% of sexually active men.

Delayed ejaculation can be divided into life-long or acquired depending on if the symptom has always been present or if it developed later on in life. A man with life-long delayed ejaculation has never experienced an ejaculation before. If delayed ejaculation is acquired the man has previously ejaculated normally. This is important to note because it guides a medical professional to what the cause may be.

Delayed ejaculation can also be classified as generalized or situational. Generalized delay in ejaculation is when a man is unable to ejaculate in any sexual intercourse and with any partner. Situational delay in ejaculation is when the symptom only occurs in certain specific situations or with a specific partner. It is clear to deduct that the problem is psychological if the delayed ejaculation only occurs during certain circumstances or with certain people.

Complications of delayed ejaculation

Delayed ejaculation can be frustrating for both the man and the woman in the relationship. It can also result in the following complications:

  • Soreness
  • Both parties can experience physical soreness from prolonged thrusting. Painful inflammation of the genitals is caused from prolonged friction. This can cause the man and the woman to associated sex with pain and therefor decrease their sex drive.


    The woman may feel insulted or unattractive because her partner is unable to reach orgasm with her

  • Relationship Conflict
  • The woman may feel insulted or unattractive because her partner is unable to reach orgasm with her. This may lead to her seeking other partners. Delayed ejaculation may lead to decreased sexual desire in the man and the woman which could lead to conflict and marital stress. Being dysfunctional in the bedroom can cause a man to have less self-confidence not only when it comes to sex but also in other areas in his life.

  • Infertility
  • Delayed ejaculation is also a big issue when the couple wants to have children. If a man cannot ejaculate he is not able to transfer sperm into the vagina so therefor he is not able to make a woman pregnant.